Now that class 12 exams are over, I observe students are bit relieved but parents are still nervous. I seriously hope this article will help the parents of class 12 students.
Even before telling you what you guys should do,I want to remind you,your child's potential.
You might have observed your son's or daughter's performance till the "millionth pre-final exams". If your son scored 60% till pre-finals you can't expect him to get 80% in the finals. So be prepared. NO, no magic is gonna happen. Disappointments lead to frustrations.This results in entire family getting upset.
Just because a random relative's son scored 1180/1200 in last year board exam,it doesn't mean your son/daughter should also score like crazy!! So don't compare. No two students have same capacity and no two students have same environmental impact.
In case your son didn't score well,its so obvious that he is interested in something else!!!
It doesn't mean he is not interested in studies,it means he is not interested in the subjects,which he studied in class 12. So,help your children explore their interests by paying attention to their activities. Try to encourage them.If you can't,don't discourage them.
Its okay,if you take time to analyze your child's interest. Its not too late. Engineering in some random college with untrained professors and poor infrastructure is not the solution. Its okay if he gets admitted in a course in which he is interested after one year. (No,your relatives are not important than your child's future.)
If your son is clear of what he is interested in,then help him find the right place to study that particular subject. Give your kids the freedom to choose what they want to be. If your elder son/daughter is a software engineer and if he/she earns well,don't force your younger one also to follow the same path. Please understand money is not everything.
Its completely fine if your son has flunked in the exams. This board exam alone cannot decide somebody's future. (sounds cliche but an absolute truth.) Spend more time with him. Talk to him. He may be interested in sports or any other activities. Figure that out. Encourage him.Give hope. Take a break and go for a vacation. Come back and think about reexamination.
Don't waste your hard earned money in "buying" an engineering seat in some random 200th rank engineering college.No,its not worth it.
If your son has scored well in the exams,again you don't tell him what he should do.The kids who score well have too many options in front of them and let them decide what they want to be. Just because some colleague of yours said that the future lies in Electronics and communication science,don't compel them to study electronics.It makes no sense.
Finally,there is nothing to panic about board exam results. Make your kids realize that you are always there for them,whatever be their board exam score. In some families, relatives are more curious to know your kid's score than you.Handle them carefully. Don't put your kids down in front of them. Remember your life should be filled with more happy moments.
Stay cool!! Be happy!!! :D :D
Take care.
Note : I have mentioned "son" in most places.It applies to daughters too :) :)
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